Showing posts with label self help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self help. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

To be who you are...

‘Be who you are…’ I have come across this as a teaching in many books, numerous articles on the internet about self-improvement, as well as in the movies. I have no doubt on this that it is an instinct which successful ones had in them. Even in the book ‘The Winner Stands Alone’ by Paulo Coelho, the message has been delivered to stick to the original in you and you will stand away from the crowd but on the right track towards success. And this notion somewhere suffice to comply as a trait and add up with many other traits that a winner possess.  

But I seldom confuse myself. This may be because of not having much experience in life, or may be because I am not able to understand the message in the aforesaid line completely. I confuse whether the statement is conditional. Secondly, I don’t doubt on the statement but I perceive that the statement alone is not solely correct. I believe that I need to look into priorities, I need to judge what is right and what is not, and I need to foresee the outcome of my actions before I apply ‘To be who I am.’

Our mind is a factory of thoughts. Many thoughts produced go overlooked while many others make us contemplate. And I contemplate and I find I cannot be entirely who I am at all instances. I need to look if my team-mates are not being offended as a result of my strict nature towards achieving quality performance. I need to get a bit flexible to allow everyone to perform together, happily. I don't like to talk much, but when I am on the job as a salesman I need to be expressive, patient, and talkative. Stupid examples they may sound, but to me they are like few of instances out of many where I cannot be simply who I am. I need to look into other parameters like my priority, foreseen outcome of my actions, or to be say simply in a profitable position. To be who a drug dealer is, or a criminal mastermind to be what he is, that’s completely wrong and that cannot be preached. Wrong doing and right doing, and our ability to judge them, drives what we want to be and what we should be. The statement ‘To be yourself’ is a culmination of attributes that blend our stand in our lives. It stands above all in the hierarchy of self-improvement traits. When all traits below have been considered, then only the top one can be fetched, and that adds a whole lot of meaning to the statement itself. 

Life is not entirely about me and myself. I am just one of the person on this planet, which is just one of the planet of this unfathomable universe. To the life as I see, I don’t find there is anything that lies at the elemental level solely with all the importance. Life is all about totality, various constituents of it combining together to form a meaning. You add two independent things and we get a meaningful thing, you add two meaningful things and that would yield a third meaningful thing. Likewise, to be who I am, that signifies to its truest meaning when all forms of traits combine together. All those traits together would define me what truly I am, or what I choose to be. 

 I am alone
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Monday, February 24, 2014

Good Health is the Happiness


How much do you think the title of this post is appropriate? Happiness is from the Good health you have. And the reverse of this is true as well, that the Good health is from the happiness. Happiness and  Good health, they enjoy the intimacy that cannot be fathomed with one or two scientific experiments. It is like one is because of the other. But, if we know this, why we lie surrounded with millions of reasons to be sad?

Dying, it’s the only thing to be sad over. Living unhappily is something else. There are so many people who are unhappy. Why is that so? For one thing, the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We are being carried away by wrong teachings. We must be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. Create your own. Most people can’t do it. They tend to lie under the folds of unhappiness they wove for themselves. Having the privilege to live on this earth is in itself a big asset. Other things that upset us certainly stand much below this asset. 

I have been reading ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ by Mitch Albom. The story revolves around a student and his professor of philosophy who is going to die of a dreaded disease. Teachings that the old and dying professor gives have started to refine me. I had always complained of various things that were not perfect for me. I had issues with everyone around me, and I frequently complained about them for not being at par with my expectations. And you won’t believe me, these notions culminated to sadden me and most of the time I used to stay restless clutched pondering over petty issues.

If we have a good health, that stands as the most precious asset for us. Staying happy nurtures the life we have got, and being sad kills it slowly. 
With every page I read of the book I mentioned, I am getting enlightened even more. A very good and essential read for them who have been feeling as if they are not able to reap most out of their lives.