Monday, January 30, 2012


Talking with people in general, and speaking in front of group of people, how do you take these two different things? Pardon me if I quoted the same thing and called them to be different. But I consider them to be two separate areas that have significance in each case to be different from the other. We basically do the talking with people to let them know what we want them to know, things we would like to share, a typical discussion we would like to hold. Keeping everything inside our heart is not an easy task and so most of us need to speak with someone. Now where does this speaking in front of people stands for? I suppose speaking in front of people is a more official template, where measurements of your flow of words have serious importance, and you need to clarify yourselves and things you are discussing about. It is a more responsible way to express the matters. People may cross question you and you will need to clarify them over and over again. Now when you meet your dear ones what do you do? Do you speak out as if you are in front of people or is it the normal talking that you do?

I had always thought I am in a habit where I talk less. Recently I have realized that whenever I started the talks, I kept switching in between the shoes of the talking, and of the speaking. Why does this happen that even in friendly talks, we need to clarify ourselves, we need to give a proof of holding the way we talked. I looked into it, gargled the jug full of thoughts and contemplated few coins that didn't shine. I concluded that though I tend to speak less, but I slip into the boat that sails me off, and I keep throwing the words with every push on my oars. There should be a proper proportion of what you need to speak and what you actually speak. We must not let ourselves flow by the stream of emotions. If your boat slips off the coast into the sea then you need to step into the water to bring it back on the sands. It need not be mentioned how worse it can be if someone speaks unprecedentedly. You can’t do more good to him by discussing more than what he expects you to do. Being diplomatic is the best option left with us to continue being on the safe side and to prevent hearts to disassemble. This is the professional way of dressing ourselves. And I am trying to suit myself the best way in my professional field. This is just an experimental proposition by me, your views may vary. I have guilt if I hurt someone with my over explanatory talks without any need at all. 

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yes the key to be on safer side is "one must not let himself flow by the stream of emotions...." and over the year i personally have learnt to be little diplomatic during conversations, it helps....

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@Irfan sir - Yes sir...Other than being diplomatic, we are left with no choice.

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You are absolutely right, atleast according to what I feel. The day I stepped into my college I learned the fact that it's better to think before I speak. It goes completely out of your hands when your words are misunderstood. But still being diplomatic is not easy for people as me. :)

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@Namrata - It is not easy for me either but we are left with no choice. We have to survive in our professional world, and its exposure had started the day we entered college. :)

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:-)
Good to read such a post.
As far as i think before speaking we must think once. It might be possible that what you want to express to the listeners or your near ones they can't understand the real sense of what you want to convey.
Keeping silent is also not a solution.
According to me we should speak depending on the nature of people... :-)

Nice post. Felt good to go through it.

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Intelligent post. True, that we have to measure our words while talking even with friends. Though it is not always necessary.

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I always maintain my distance and measure my words. You can undo when you speak or talk. A wise post...

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Your reactions should not only be to the point and diplomatic but also natural, flawless and immediate. It comes with continuous practice. But sometime we err but do not repent : as to err is human. Don't take time in requesting pardon for erroneous remarks.

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